Become intimate with self to learn trust
Q: My concern is about my boyfriend who lives in Florida. We’ve been talking romantically since April 2012 but have been in contact with each other regularly since august 2011. Is he serious about us being together or has he been in a relationship with someone else during this time? Just want to understand what is going on with us. Anitra
A: It sounds like you already have a good sense ~ but don’t trust it Anitra. I receive that there are people (family/friends) around you confirming (or thinking) that he’s up to no good too ~ and this is coming forth from an aunt/sister figure who is on the other side who guides you with personal matters. She understands your dilemma since she had the same experience(s) in her lifetime, especially concerning a ‘love’ that relocated and who kept in close contact. I’d be willing to bet that there are extended periods of not hearing from your boyfriend, or unable to reach him, and then, afterwards, he is not so forth coming of his whereabouts. If this sounds like your boyfriend, I’d say your feelings are warranted. I get the sense that his dishonesty and or lack of commitment regarding the relationship between you two is because you aren’t even sure what you want out of this relationship. I get the feeling that you haven’t really made it clear ‘out loud’ what you want nor have you made a verbal commitment to one another: including exclusivity. To be clear, you have to become intimate with yourself to trust your instincts. Be really honest with yourself. Listen to your heart, concerning your boyfriend Anitra. If you continue to be ‘wishy-washy’, then he’ll reflect the same sentiments. The only way you can see if he is serious about you is to be honest with yourself. If it is a commitment, then draw the line. Be willing to risk your relationship by being honest with how you feel and expressing what you want. I know that being vulnerable is scary, but it is the only way to move a relationship to another level of intimacy.
Speaking of which, on a physical level, anytime I see someone in a relationship that is long distance, intimacy and trust are difficult to cultivate. It’s easier to be non-intimate with space between people. But intimacy, as well as trust, are essential ingredients to develop a long lasting relationship. One may seek out these kinds of relationships because these key elements were betrayed in the past. It’s a broken record. Heal the broken heart, from previous relations, so that you can stop the cycle of attracting more of the same. It’s an inner transformation. This is how: Ask support from the heavens.
Close your eyes. Visualize light coming down from the heavens and welcome Angels of light into your space. Then visualize the person from past relationship(s) who betrayed your trust (if more than one, do each person separate ~ I’d bet your father was on of these people) stand before you in the light. Then send love from your heart to their heart, so that it appears like a laser beam. Most importantly, feel it as you transmit the love from your heart to their heart, so your intent is pure. Then tell this person that you send them off into the light with love as you forgive them for any misdeeds. And then, visualize Angels wrap their wings around this person and fly away with them in the light, until they fade from your vision. If you feel angst while doing this exercise, continue until you feel the honest intent of love emit from your heart so that a healing can take place for you. Forgiveness is a powerful tool to restore your heart. Then open yourself up to something new and unexpected! This can also include existing relationships. Keep me posted. Bless, LL
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